Adoption can be an excellent solution to an unplanned pregnancy. It is an alternative to raising a child a woman feels unprepared to raise or to ending the life of that child before birth. According to the National Committee for Adoption, there are 1.5 million American couples wanting to adopt children. Yet each year, while 1.6 million children are being killed by abortion, only 50,000 new children are made available for adoption. For every couple that adopts, another 40 wait in line. The Ray County Women's Resource Center refers to local adoption agencies that receive letters on a weekly basis from couples longing to adopt a baby. There are even groups of prospective adoptive parents who specifically want to adopt disabled or special needs children.
Adoption is conducted very differently now than years ago. Today, birth mothers are respected and empowered. They choose the parents they want for their child from resumes and interviews. The birth families and adoptive families get to know each other and often become friends during the pregnancy. Any degree of openness after the baby is born is mutually agreed upon.
The Ray County Women's Resource Center is not a licensed adoption agency and recognizes that adoption is not for everyone. But, we do recommend three excellent organizations for help with adoption planning.
- Love Basket International - 888-568-2758
- Bethany Christian Services - 800-238-4269
- Catholic Charities - 800-CARE-002
Some women have said "I could never give my baby up for adoption. I'd rather abort before I would do that." We always urge them to consider adoption as it can accomplish the same goals as abortion but will affect their health in a less detrimental way. Such goals are:
- Pursue earlier goals and plans
- Avoid having to parent prematurely
- Be free of the financial burdens of parenting
- Avoid being pressured into a hasty marriage
- If you are a teen, resume your youthful lifestyle